Should we get stuck in one of the five stages; the process of grieving is not complete, and cannot be complete. Thus there will be no healing. A person MUST go through the five stages to be well again, to heal.
Not everyone will go through the stages at the same time or spend as long within each stage. Every person will have a unique experience. You cannot force or cajole a person through the stages; they have to go at their own pace. A person can regress and go back and forwards through the stages. but this is all part of the process. But, as stated all five stages must be resolved before healing process to occur
- 1. Denial At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
- 2. Anger. The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
- 3. Bargaining. Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?" or with their partner
4. Depression. The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath
- 5. Acceptance. This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Hypnotherapy is a great way of tackling any kind of emotional, psychological or habitual problems; without creating side effects.